In a recent Dear Abby column, a reader named Torn in South Dakota sought advice on a dilemma involving her boyfriend, Barry, and her brother, Rob. Barry was terminated from his job after an altercation with Rob, but Torn is still seeing him. Despite her brother forgiving Barry, he refuses to have any contact with him and disapproves of Torn continuing the relationship. Torn, who has set boundaries with both men, wonders if she is wrong for going against her brother’s wishes and staying with Barry.
Dear Abby advised Torn to reconsider her relationship with Barry, pointing out possible anger management issues and the potential danger to her well-being. While the altercation was between her brother and Barry, there is a risk that Barry’s volatile behavior could affect her as well. Abby urged Torn to prioritize her safety and seek out a more stable partner.
In another letter, a reader from Arizona shared concerns about his wife’s retirement and resulting boredom. While he is happy to see her enjoying her free time, her spending habits and desire for activities he dislikes, such as camping, have become a problem. The reader suggested his wife find a part-time job to keep busy and contribute financially, but she reacted defensively.
Dear Abby advised the reader to have a candid conversation with his wife about their financial situation and the need for rest during weekends. She suggested gently reminding his wife of the benefits of a part-time job, including additional discretionary income for shopping. Abby reassured the reader that these suggestions should not lead to conflict if approached sensitively.
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