A man wrote to Annie Lane seeking advice on his wife’s continued contact with her high school ex-boyfriend, who disrespected her in the past and doesn’t respect their marriage. The husband is frustrated that his wife invited the ex to a music festival against his wishes and feels disrespected. Annie advises the husband to communicate his discomfort and set boundaries with his wife regarding her relationship with her ex. She suggests specific requests, such as being present when they meet or talk on the phone, to make him feel more comfortable. If the wife is not willing to compromise, she may be compromising the marriage.
In another letter, a reader asks if they should include their deceased mother’s birthday and wedding anniversary in the family calendar. Annie advises including the dates to honor and remember their mother, as their father will likely be thinking of her regardless. This can serve as a reminder that she is never forgotten. Annie Lane’s new anthology, “How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” is available for purchase.
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