Press Article: Navigating Unfulfilled Offers of Help
In a recent advice column, a reader expressed frustration with a friend who frequently offers assistance but fails to follow through. The reader noted that while they are capable of handling their own matters, the inconsistency in support has led to feelings of avoidance and embarrassment.
Advisor R. Eric Thomas tackled this common dilemma, emphasizing that an offer of help is only as beneficial as the actual support provided. He stressed the importance of managing expectations by prompting the friend for specific details regarding the offer. Instead of viewing this as a confrontation, Thomas suggested framing it as a scheduling request. By asking, “When can we plan to tackle this together?” the reader can establish a clearer understanding of when help will be available.
Thomas pointed out that merely saying they’ll help at a vague time often leads to frustration, coining “Someday” as the most overbooked date on anyone’s calendar. By setting a concrete date and time, both parties can plan more effectively, alleviating the pressure on the reader. If the friend fails to show up as promised, the reader can then manage the situation independently without residual feelings of resentment.
In essence, establishing a proactive and positive framework for these offers can transform them from mere kind gestures into effective engagements, ensuring that both friends feel valued and respected.
For more insights or to submit your questions, reach out to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com or visit his website for updates.
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