Desperate at Home writes to advice columnist R. Eric Thomas about her frustration with her fiancé’s adult children not cleaning up after themselves in their shared household. Despite working long hours, she comes home to a messy kitchen every day and feels tired and disrespected. She has spoken to her fiancé about the issue, but nothing has changed.
Thomas advises Desperate to consider the previous household dynamic before she moved in and questions why the adult children, including a 27-year-old with children of their own, are not contributing to household chores. He suggests that perhaps the household dynamics were not discussed properly before she moved in, leading to the current situation.
Thomas encourages Desperate to set boundaries and stop cleaning up after everyone, asking herself if this living situation is what she wants. He advises her to have a conversation with her fiancé about how to address the issue and make a plan for improvement. If he is unwilling to change or does not have a solution, she may need to reconsider the relationship.
The column offers a sympathetic and practical perspective on dealing with challenging family dynamics and finding solutions to create a healthy and balanced living environment. Desperate is encouraged to prioritize her own well-being and set boundaries to ensure a respectful and harmonious household.
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