In a heartfelt letter to advice columnist R. Eric Thomas, a man shares his story of discovering he may have a son with his ex-girlfriend from graduate school. The man received a call from his ex-girlfriend claiming her oldest child, who was five years old at the time, might be his son. Despite being married, the ex-girlfriend never asked for anything and simply wanted him to know the truth.
Over the years, the man and his ex-girlfriend have exchanged emails, but she never allowed him to meet the child. Recently, she claimed that the child was not his. However, the man still feels a desire to meet the potential son, now in his 50s.
Thomas advises the man to consider the potential impact of reaching out to the son after so many years of silence. He urges the man to be clear about his intentions and potential consequences, while also acknowledging the impact on the son and his family. Thomas recommends having a conversation with the ex-girlfriend first to address the situation before deciding whether to reach out to the son.
Source
Photo credit www.masslive.com
